Five P's and a Daily Plan

Walking the path of the day, there are times when life is more purposeful, and times when I  seem to float wherever the tidewaters take me.  In an attempt at remaining open to God, while still living a purposeful life, an outline can be helpful, as long as I remember it is only an outline – a reminder of what might be next.  Last year, I spent some time working on a daily docket, along the lines of the one available from simplemom.net.   There are multiple versions of this, including Ann Voskamp's version, a lovely take on the quotidian.  These daily planners inspired me to create my own outline for the day, one that reflected my goals for each day.   I created a basic outline, but set it aside and never completed it.

 I have lived the past year in a floating bubble of preparing and caring for a newborn, allowing many things to fall to the side in order to fully inhale and experience these fleeting moments.  I am loving every precious and beautiful day.  I also know that at some point, a new daily rhythm must find itself within our home.  The cold, dark days of winter always turn my thoughts to how I can better manage my home, and so I returned to the long abandoned daily outline.  I know there is no perfect plan, and no perfect day.  Planning must be balanced with flexibility.  I also know that without any kind of plan or goal, we remain static;  if you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.

In thinking about what to include in a daily plan, I went to my personal mission statement, inspired by Holly Pierlot's A Mother's Rule of Life.  If you are not familiar with this book, Holly breaks down the roles of a mother's life into the "Five P's" of Prayer, Person, Partner, Parent and Provider.  In that order, she looks at each facet of a woman's life and how to find the correct balance of priorities.

In keeping with these Five P's, here is my take on the day's plan:

Personal Plan

Primary - these are the three most important things of the day.  If only these three are accomplished, the day is a success!

Prayer - the first "P" and the principal thing of the day - here is a place to write down a memory verse, a quote from the lives of the Saints, or other inspiration from morning prayer time.  At the bottom of this box is a place for Partner - the third P.  Here is a place to write out a reminder of how I will serve my husband today - whether it is praying for him, doing something special for him,  or just a reminder of a daily habit to work on in my interactions with him.

Provisions - a place to jot down the family meals for the day - I may eliminate the breakfast and lunch options, since those are pretty fixed around here, but I left them on for now.  By looking at that first thing in the morning, any dinner prep (thawing meat etc.) that needs to be done early in the day is not forgotten.

Personal - the second P in Rule of Life, this is the fun part!  Here is a place to think about the ways I make sure I am getting what I need to enable me to serve those around me.

Pursuing the creative - my favorite, whether it is sewing, painting or building a new material for the atrium, here is where I note any project for which I want to make time 

Pursuing the orderly - a small goal, habit, job to help improve upon or maintain the rhythm of the home

Pursuing the beautiful - a project, moment, idea for bringing beauty into my home and my life 

Pruning - an area of personal growth that needs work - a reminder of a character habit to be working on

Also included in the personal care of self is maintaining good physical health, so there is a place for documenting daily workouts and water consumption.

Praises - here I took a cue from Ann - a place to write down daily thanksgivings, offering praise to God for each gift given.

Planting Mustard Seeds - a place to consciously think about how I am going to participate in the growth of the Kingdom of God on a daily basis.  This serves as a reminder that the smallest of acts, the tiniest of moments can grow into a tree that offers shelter to many.

Parent and Provider - the final two P's, here is a place to make notes on anything related to the kids and basic household duties.

Proposal for the Day - a place to jot down when I plan to complete those Primary priorities, and add in other scheduled events of the day

Projects and Pursuits - another spot to make notes, jot down ideas for future projects, make lists of items needed for a co-op project or the latest idea seen on Pinterest  :)  

There may be a few areas of redundancy here, and this page is certainly a work in progress.  With some of the reading I have been doing lately, I have considered shifting this to a weekly planner format.  As a new regularity begins to manifest itself to our days and weeks, I will likely make a different plan.  Until then,  I have to start somewhere!  For now, it will serve as a roadmap for the day.  A day considered is a day well lived, and I pray that each day may breathe with its own unique life while also maintaining a consistency and direction.

What I did today

slept in

nursed a baby

read aloud to the girls

baked lemon muffins

nursed a baby

took a nap

began to sketch out a new weekly and daily rhythm

helped the girls feed the horses

built a fort by the creek

nursed a baby

practiced my crayon skills
watched the sun go down

prayed the Akathist to the Theotokos

took a 30 minute bath with the door locked

turned thirty-nine

celebrated with a glass of champagne

nursed a baby

I consider it a day well spent.

Reorienting to Rhythm

It seems having babies grounds and centers me.  I didn't always see that as a good thing.  It took a few babies for that lesson to begin to sink in, to see the 40 days the church gives us to rest as a time to draw in and settle, to see the the first years as a time to be home, to allow that new little one to be a reason to let go of some burdens of responsibility that lie outside the home and family.  Those who know me will never say that I do that to the degree that I should.  But I try.  After Dimples was born, I think we found a rhythm of life that seemed to suit us well.  We lived that path for a few years, and they were beautiful years.  Then some things entered into my life that began to demand intense amounts of time.  I let those things pull at me, because they are good things.  But I lost our rhythm.  The bare bones were still there, but too many things stretched me out.  Now, a new little one demands that we pull in, that I find my center once again; that I might not be pulled to pieces, not find myself living in Zerrissenheit.  The cold winter days are such a good time to contemplate new (old) patterns, and the past weeks of icy cold have been a time of thought and evaluation.  Seeking inspiration, I found a lovely little online course, Living Curriculum: Celebrate the Rhythm, that caught my attention, so I took a chance and enrolled for March.  Some of it is just a reminder of things I have forgotten or laid aside, some of it is new insight, some of it we do on a daily basis and all of it is an encouragement to me - a friend holding my hand for a few weeks to bring me back.  The yearly rhythm is perhaps the one I kept hold of the best, so I will work from my strength, and move in to find a new pattern to the weekly and the daily.

My visual interpretation of the yearly rhythm using liturgical colors of the seasons.

Forgiveness

What a beautiful gift the church offers us each year in the form of Forgiveness Vespers.  It can be a hard service.  It is off putting to some.  Some may wonder why we would ask forgiveness of people we don't know, or people we feel certain we haven't wronged?  To miss out on this interaction though is to miss out on a great catharsis of the Orthodox faith.  The church offers us this moment to cleanse.  It matters not if I have offended each and every person present (though odds are, without my knowledge I more likely than not have at some point).  Even if I am asking forgiveness of someone I have never met, I am a sinner.  I was created in the image and likeness of God, and I have corrupted that image and likeness each day.  I have damaged and stained that beautiful white garment I was given at baptism.  Each time I tarnish that image, I sin against all of humanity.  So, this forgiveness is asked of all of humanity, that I might start fresh each year and work towards preserving that likeness better.  And of course, there are those moments when I come face to face with those who I know I have harmed.  Maybe it is just a careless word, maybe it is a strained relationship, maybe it is a long term tension between personalities that likely will never be close.  And maybe it is someone I have hurt deeply through word or deed.  Certainly each member of my family has received painful wounds from me.  Each encounter is a moment to humble oneself before Christ and each other, to ask forgiveness, and to seek to do better in the coming year.  The hugs, the words of forgiveness, the shared tears, all are small steps toward the healing of the soul.  What a great gift the church offers us each year, to humble ourselves before God and each other.  The joy and lightness upon leaving this service can only be compared to that of confession or of the Paschal service when one has fasted, prepared and entered into the full cycle of services.  It brings a sense of new beginning, and for that I am ever grateful.  To each of you in the online world with whom I have crossed paths, I ask the same.  For any stray word, false humility, false appearance or hurt;  Forgive me a sinner.

Girls in white dresses with red satin sashes.....

...... friends, stories, music, singing, dancing.....

....tea, oatmeal, fruit and cat buns...

A perfect St. Lucia morning!

*sorry for the seasonally inappropriate post  :)  no matter what I do, I cannot keep up with real time posting through the Advent season, but still wanted to share some moments of a sweet and simple celebration!

2014: JOY

*This post is way overdue, and most of it was written back in January, so forgive me if it seems out of date and a bit disjointed - things are sitting in the draft folder while I love on a baby!

Once again a new year presents itself.  Once again I consider a name.  Last year, I embraced the word OPEN.  I would like to think I was successful in opening myself to things, and letting go even if it was just a little bit.  When I wrote those words last year, I had just found out I was pregnant.  At that time, we had not shared the news with anyone, and it would be another month before we did.  My heart was full; with love, excitement, worry and fear, so many emotions.  Four years earlier,  I wanted another little one more than anything.  I felt our family was not complete, yet I felt selfish, ungrateful for not being completely satisfied with the joy and blessings God had already given me.  I finally let go of that wish, accepted that was not to be, and embraced the stage of life I was entering.  It was at the moment when I let go of my desires that God placed a new little one in our lives.  I opened my hands, and He filled them.  It was a beautiful lesson in accepting God's timing for things, and realizing how perfect His timing is in spite of our plans.  How many things would be different had that baby come even a few weeks, let alone years, sooner than he did!


Now, one year later, I contemplate a new word.  I hadn't given it much thought until the very end of the year.  When my mind began to turn over the idea of what word I wished to define the pages of this new chapter, I could not help but contemplate the season.  The season of the Nativity is full, pregnant if you will.  So many beautiful moments and experiences,  each one looking toward the greatest gift of all, the Light of the World, the bringer of true Joy.  Joy.  How many times that word seemed to pop up!



Rather than I choose a word for the year, it was as though a word chose me.  In an almost serendipitous way, I found that word appearing everywhere I looked.  I had purchased a lettered decoration for the baptism back in October that proclaimed it.  I bought it because it was burlap, and fit so well with my decorations, and of course, it was a joyful occasion welcoming our little one into the fold of the Good Shepherd.  After the baptism, that word resided on our fireplace above the stockings, a daily reminder to smile and enjoy each day.

Our little princess loves to make cards for everyone at Christmas, and she creates these 'word cards', folded papers cut into the shape of a word.  Last year the card she made me was "love."  This year my card read "joy."

After Christmas, I ordered some items from Dayspring.  When my order arrived, there was a mix up.  They had shipped someone else's order.  When I called to let them know, they graciously told me to keep the mistaken order, and they would ship me the items I had ordered as well.  One of the items in that mistaken order was a beautiful set of letter blocks, to spell out various words.  My eye immediately went to the letters J...O...Y.


So this is the year of JOY.  I am learning more and more that opening my hands, letting go, leads to joy.

 "You shall have joy, or you shall have power, said God;  you shall not have both."  

Ralph Waldo Emerson.

I will try to rejoice in each day, looking to the example of the bee who finds the flower in the room, rather than the fly who finds the garbage.

"Joy can be real only if people look upon their life as a service, and have a definite object in life outside themselves and their personal happiness."
Tolstoy

My boys

Our little one has decided to get an early start and is joining the crocodile hunter in his algebra studies.